• hate2bme@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    I went to a gay bar with my gay friends from work last week. I had 5 compliments on my beard. It felt so good.

  • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    I’m a cishet man. Only one gay man has ever hit on me and it disappoints me. Like what’s wrong with me, guys? Don’t you want this body?

  • masterofn001@lemmy.ca
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    1 month ago

    Had one recent tenant straight up tell me within the first few days of renting, for absolutely no reason whatsoever, “I hate faggots”.

    I just stared at him and replied, “You’re just mad because they don’t hit on you”

    He was also recently removed from the property.

    He was barely 19, and just started university.

    Good luck in life, bro.

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      Right?! This right here.

      I was once yelled at by a friend of a girl for “ignoring her advances.” I kid you not, the “advances” consisted of her walking up to me at a party, saying “hey, aren’t you in my math class?” (To which I answered in the affirmative) and “well, um, I guess I’ll see you there Monday!”

      How the fuck was I supposed to know that was an attempt at flirting?

      The older gay guy at work? “You’re gorgeous. Ever consider dating a man?”

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        Society has reinforced that women should be passive, and even after much progress on that front in general, somehow this still applies in some people’s minds.

        I would guess.

        No biggie though, depends what you personality traits you yourself are looking for, if being proactive is one of them, then I guess you haven’t missed out 😅

        And if you weren’t interested and the friend is yelling at you angrily, that’s mega questionable. Last I checked, no one is obligated to be interested romantically in anyone else…

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    1 month ago

    As a mostly straight dude who does not score high on conventional physical attractiveness I encourage absolutely everyone independent of their gender to hit on me. Being told/signaled that I am attractive is always welcome.

    Just don’t blatantly ignore boundaries like physical touch without explicit consent. That too applies completely independent of gender.

    • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      Man if I ever get comments on my appearance it goes to my head and I cant think straight for days.

      Thankfully that’s only happened like twice.

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      1 month ago

      I’m sure you’re aware but I think it needs to be said more; but I think that most women would love to pay men compliments on their appearance, but unfortunately, it sometimes leads to weird, obsessive, totally inappropriate behaviour from said men and so that scares a lot of women off.

      We, as a society, should try to discourage men from reading too much into a purely platonic compliment so that women feel more free to give men compliments without fear of super awkward and/or scary situations.

  • Dr. Wesker@lemmy.sdf.org
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    1 month ago

    I used to provide security for a club that held a lot of queer dance parties. It’s pretty flattering to be hit on by gay guys. They’ll give you honest compliments that most women won’t.