• Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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    28 days ago

    Seems weird you’d think the “end goal” of accepting people is so everyone can use boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever partner just seems so disconnected and formal

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      28 days ago

      My partner is not a girl, she’s a woman, and she more than a friend to me. She is my partner in life. So yes, it is more formal than “girlfriend.” That’s the point.

      And no, I won’t marry her. We’re not religious, and we don’t believe the government should have any input in our relationship. We’ll happily have a ceremony, but she will still be my partner at the end of it.

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        28 days ago

        Sometimes having the government on your side is important. (E.g., entrance to hospital rooms in emergencies)

        Not trying to convince you, just something to consider depending on your jurisdiction

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          28 days ago

          I do worry about that.

          It theoretically shouldn’t be a problem here. We’re listed as each others primary emergency contacts, and we’ve been together longer than 2 years, which over here grants you most of the same privileges as marriage anyway. So it hopefully won’t be an issue. I just hope we never have to test that.

          Actually, where I know it will matter is if one of us had to die unexpectedly, but that can be negated by just having a proper will drawn up… which, come to think of it, we should really do…

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        27 days ago

        seems like there needs to be something better/higher than partner, if partner can be thrown around so willy nilly like people working together being partners

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        27 days ago

        I didn’t think I was enforcing any rules just felt like people are missing out on something special, it’s not like there hasn’t been a long fight to get equal marriage rights

      • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        27 days ago

        I’ve heard significant other/SO and other half. Seems a bit off if drag’s polyam though.

        There’s a lot of alternatives, but fuck the haters and use what drag’s partner and drag prefers.