You may have picked the wrong instance then, because as the blahaj.zone instance admin, I actively remove “mean things”. Words designed to harm others, whether it’s bigotry, or harassment or insults, are not an “occupational hazard”, they undermine the community and hurt folk when they’re vulnerable.
Hateful words will get you banned here, and apologism for them and downplaying their impact is not welcome.
I’ve replied to the person in question.